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As a mom - it breaks my heart when …
By Mother | October 3, 2007
I have to stick to my word. I mean, with 2 teens in the house, we always encounter situations where in the teens do something that can get them grounded … whether it be because of bad choices or bad decisions on their end or unacceptable behavior/attitude. Today, the teens tried to trick me into driving them somewhere (extra curricular activity). After chatting with them, I suddenly realized that I had grounded them both for a week (over the weekend for something they did over the weekend). So,I said … “Hey, both of you are grounded (remember … from the weekend) … so you can’t leave”. My teen daughter tried to ask me to “un-ground” them while my teen son just insisted that they were not grounded and that I was unfair for just deciding to ground them whenever I pleased. Honestly, I was disappointed with him … I realized that he was upset - thus, the attitude. But, I do not want them to feel like they can just disregard what I said (them being grounded) and pretend that nothing happened.
It breaks my heart to be strict but I feel like I have to. I feel like I am the “bad guy” here. But, I feel that I need to stick to my word - when I say “they are grounded … then, they are GROUNDED!” Of course, the fear of them hating me is always there too - *sigh* - what should this mom do? Do I just let this week pass and say nothing? Do I talk to them about how I feel? I probably should do the latter … although I feel that they will say that I am always dramatic and unfair …
Any thoughts?
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November 6th, 2007 at 12:11 am
Just be glad you still have your kids and they have not turned against you and run away because they do not get their way. Even if you have given your whole life to them. Losing one of them will feel a million times worse than having to ground them.
heart broken mom
November 18th, 2007 at 5:52 pm
I have the same issues with my two teen boys, and it is likely that since I have read this nearly 10 days after your post, the issue has passed for you. That is my exact problem: I propose a punishment as a result of some behavior: bad grades, sloppy rooms, whatever, then forget it a day or two days later (when they are doing something they were grounded from, such as playing a video game or asking a friend over). The right answer to this is to stick to your guns when you make a mistake, and be the “mean mother”. I have read that they won’t hate us for this, but will respect us in the end, when they have grown up and all this has passed. I must say for my part, I can’t wait for this stage of life to be over, and have them at the “grateful” post-teen age.